Before I discovered this technique, I was this woman who used to let mental events play over and over in my head everyday until I got psychically and emotionally tired. I wasn’t aware of how these mental events were doing me more harms than good. Whether I was recovering from a 5 years relationship breakup, from a friend’s betrayal or recovering from mobbing. For each event occurred, I used to go to bed thinking about it. I used to even wake up thinking about them which made my stomach form a big knot. Thinking about the ‘why me?’, the ‘why don’t they just respect me?’ or ‘what will they say or do to me tomorrow” or “how will they look at me after I filed a complaint”. And if I would submit a file complaint for bullying, I would worry how my co-workers would looked at me, etc.
I even went to bed thinking about those events that would just consume my energy and I would wake up feeling emotionally and physically exhausted and worst of all, deeply sad and worried. Yes, I used to worry. My stomach would shrink and form a knot with tense that I used to eat once a day and with difficulties which led me to dramatically loose weight over time. Anxiety was behind my dramatic weight loss. I used to feel anxious just playing the events over and over again in my head for days. Not aware of the aftermaths that I experienced afterward: more and more stress, more self-critical, less-self compassion. I jumped off the track and got lost. I forgot about caressing my soul.
I was losing my dignity. I started to believe more of what they say about me than what I think about myself. I relied on to them for my worthiness. Anything that kept me small.
The day I was writing my story to be published for the anthology series, “The Silver Linings Storybook”, I remember tears were overflowing as I was replaying those ugly events in my head repeatedly. I cried for so long. Those mental events were so unbearable that writing my story to be published for the first time was the only way to let go of the past, forgive and be happy, forever.
So yes when I started the journey to forgive the past, myself and others, I rediscovered mindfulness as an art of life. Forgiving while practicing mindfulness had led me to have the major success of my entire life and career: HAPPINESS.
Mindfulness had helped me gain control of my life by listening to my mind and body, rather than be tossed around by the outside world. I developed an intimacy with my body and mind and activated my own healing power. As a result, I relieved chronic pain, gastritis, lessons feelings of anxiety and depressive-like symptoms. I no longer have ‘knots’ in my stomach. I no longer go to bed thinking and replaying major events that were harmful for my spirit and health. I can finally sleep like a BOSS. In other words, MINDFULNESS is powerful and it works !!! No joke!
The more I got deep with mindfulness, the more I recognized my thoughts and minds and how they affected my spirit, my mind and my wellbeing. And when I first gained complete control over my mind, I immediately felt a connection to my inner #crisocolla [yes, you know that little girl inside of you that love to sing and dance without fear]. From that point, I discovered what I wanted in life: The Crisocolla’s Self Love Project [link here].
Yes, my connection with my inner #crisocolla has been life-changing. A life transformation. If I hadn’t discovered mindfulness, if I hadn’t practiced it every day, I would not have been where I am right now: a Crisocolla woman. It was a choice. A choice to become happy once again.
What is Mindfulness?
It’s simply implied stopping and becoming aware of the moment.
Now, I want you to practice mindfulness. Mindfulness may be simple. But I am not going to lie to you: It’s not necessarily easy. It requires effort and discipline. To have an idea of what I am talking about, here’s what I like you to do for only 5 minutes:
1. Find a quiet place where you will not be disturbed.
2. Sit comfortably and with an alert, relaxed body posture. You can sit in a chair or on the floor.
3.Start to breathe deeply. Observe your breathing.
4. Observe how you breathe in and breathe out. Feel your abdomen as you breathe in and out.. Give it to your FULL attention.
5. If your mind starts to wander, it’s alright. All you have to do is bring your thoughts back to your breathing.
6. Ask yourself, “Who am I?, “Where am I going?”, “If I could choose a trail right now, in which direction would I go?
If this exercise does not suit you or comply with your expectations, try and sit in form of a lit candle. Focus your eyes on the flame and watch it. Keep your attention on the flame.
Remember, being mindfulness means that you keep paying attention to the present moment — nonjudgmentally. In fact, it could be easier if you’re stress-free. Yes, stress is the most annoying distraction that keeps you away from being mindfulness.
Now, think of: If you can handle any negative things that life throw at you, then you can easily be aware of the present moment — or in other words, being mindfulness.
And of course, your life would be a lot happier, right?
That’s why I share about how to stay strong even in the toughest situation inside The Crisocolla Self Love Project Course with people who joined the course.
Besides, I believe by teaching people how to stay strong, it’ll also help them to express themselves freely, and they’ll feel a lot happier after they learn it.
Want to learn more about the course?
Here’s the link: The Crisocolla Self Love Project Course
Let’s back to mindfulness.
Actually, there are many different ways of meditating and cultivating mindfulness. And yes, I’ll share more in the future.
So stay tuned for more mindfulness alternatives to the basic meditation exercise, and if you like it, make sure you don’t miss any updates about mindfulness practice.